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And this morning, on Today’s Woman, like father like son-in-law? Daughters oftern turn to their dads for love support and advice, but a new study suggests that dads can also be the link to finding that special someone. NBC correspondent and the father of a daughter, Kevin Tibbles, explains.

It’s not unusual for a girl to wanna marry a guy that reminds her of her father. In fact, the new study suggests that it’s no coincidence when it comes to laws of attraction, there are some new rules.

Tell him he reminds me of my Dad.

Love, attentiveness, intere(st), common interest, so that might be something that my father certainly have and certainly my husband has it, and handsome.

But how often do women seek men that look like their fathers? Hollywood coward couple Angelina Jolie drowned at Brad Pitt. Lisa Marie Presley sure of marriage to Nicolas Cage, and Gwyneth Paltrow’s marriage to Chris Martin. The study says girls that have enjoyed a close relationship with their fathers are more likely to select men that mirror their dads.

I definitely think subconsciously I would knock there and marry someone that has the same, you know, attributes that I’ve always looked up to in a man.

A true daddy’s girl Erin Morris has always felt special around her father.

It was just so much fun being around her, being with her and she’s just, part of my life.

We have to say if they do resemble each other. And I think they could definitely be related even when that sounds really weird.

But for some, the resemblance is what they are resisting.

That’s why I’m with him, coz he’s exact opposite of my father.

I think if I had a better relationship with my father, then I would probably look for similar same qualities in a person.

Erin is convinced that being her daddy’s little girl somehow helped her find her soulmate.

Having his love, and you know, being so proud of me all the time, give me the confidence to go out there and do what I want to do.

Including finding someone who will love, honor and treat her just like her dad. For today, Kevin Tibbles, NBC news, Chicago.

Michelle Callahan is a family psychologist, Ian Kerner is a sex therapist and relationship expert, good morning to both of you .

Hey, good morning.

So, does this, does this surprise you, the study?

Uh, absolutely not at all, I mean I think what the study shows is that during childhood, the daughter-father relationship is key in helping a girl to figure out some of the qualities that she’s gonna look for later in life when she goes out to select a mate. So much so that she’s even gonna look for someone who emulates physically her father.

But does it go, Michelle, does it go beyond physical? Are they looking for the trait, either positive or negative, whether supporting, caring, nurturing that, that a father has with his daughter?

Absolutely, they are looking for that familiarity in personality, they feel comfortable with someone who’s like their fahter, so if the person was provided security, if there was emotional intimacy, they feel more comfortable with that. But on the flip side, the person could be angry and controlling and they still might be attractive as that again because it’s so familiar.

Even though it might be a negative.

Exactly.

Now, Ian, what about, what about if the father was in prison, or had less of a, of an impact?

Yeah, I think it can really have a negative impact if the dad was distant, remote, moody, stormy, if he wasn’t around, if he didn’t interact well with the mom and set a positive role model, all that could set a woman up to a negative self-esteem and negatively affect the choices that she’s gonna make later in life when she goes out to find a guy.

So it could actually affect her later on.

Absolutely, and you know, looks are deceptive. So just because somebody looks like your father too, that doesn’t mean that he shares the personality traits for better or for worse.

Michelle, OK, let’s, let’s follow up on that, if in fact there wasn’t a strong father figure, a lack there of, as that girl grows up, how does she counteract that, what does she do?

It was never too late. So she wants to establish a relationship with him still she can.. It just means you know, drop the ego, don’t say who call who first, just make the call and get it started. But if he’s not around, it’s OK. If you need counseling for it, get it. It’s, that’s not a bad thing. And look to other figures, look for other father figures, look for the people that you admire, who are the man in your life? And you could model the guy you want after that guy. But most importantly, you should just remember, just because of how he behave in your relationship doesn’t mean it’s about you, he was his own person making his own mistakes, and so women shouldn’t internalize that and use that to affect them negatively and feel bad about themselves.

Let’s take the flip shot of this scene. Does it also hold true that sons are looking at their mothers as the model for their mates?

Well, Al, my mother, named Lisa, short dark hair blue eyes, oldest of three sisters. My wife, named Lisa, short dark hair blue eyes, oldest of three sisters. Somebody might think like, oh no.

(Wow) It’s happening but yeah, we look to the, we look to the parent of the opposite sex to help us figure out the qualities that we are ultimately gonna seek out gonna make. And what’s true of women is true of man.

But in the end, is it a good thing, Michelle, or does it just, is it on an individual basis?

I think it really should go on an individual basis. Go for the guy that you joe with, it doesn’t matter if he’s like your dad or not. But if you had that role model, and it worked for you, and you had a healthy growing up, then go for that kind of guy.

Alright, Mechelle Callahan, Ian Kerner, thanks so much..

Thank you.

if so,i'll find a beautiful girl whose dad likes me.........

I  see  why so  many  girls  married  man  as  old  as  their  fathers