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For last year, we introduced you a couple of 20 something bachelors, Mike box and Jason Miller. And they were setting off on their second part of the question and answer, the age old question millions have wrestled with, what makes a good marriage.

“The adventure of a life time.”

They call their mission Project Ever Lasting, covering 12,000 miles over 75 days. They quiz 200 couples of what makes a happy marriage. Only requirement, the couple has to be married at least 40 years. Here are some advices they got.

“What do you think it takes to have a successful marriage?”

“I will give you one word.”

“Two words.”

“Respect and love.”

“Three things, no.1, you don’t have to wait the same thing. No2, always be able to reach a compromise.”

“You let me to (lead children?) , well, until you were wrong.”

“Which is one of the…?”

“And it is also very expected. I said three things.”

“Hear more than you ask.”

“Take the three things. What is to move on? The talked two things might be what you want to learn.”

“No one should be aim to become the king of a husband or a wife.”

“If you accept the wonderful things about it, then you accept things um, you know, you’d like to see change a little bit.”

“There is no exception of profession, but there are perfect moments.”

“You never go to bed mad.”

“The nice part of us about respect is making us…”

Jason Miller and Mike box has put what they have learnt into a book, called Project Ever Lasting. Hot of the press we have asked relationship expert Lully to read on their findings. Good morning to all of you , Jason, mike and lully.
“Hi.”

“So, the secrets, do share, because we are dying to know, what were the secrets to a good marriage, miller?

“The No.1 secret that we learn from every couple probably mentioned this was respect. And just not respect for having just the discipline of respect. I remember a couple we interviewed, Louis and his wife. They had an argument, he was in a war and he was a deaf, and he were hearing around his neck to reach it over and like click it like turns it off, and she said she had ( ) 13 dollars in the house.”

“A secret to the good marriage.”

“Yeah, these take off. And he said, you know, over time, they learned to listen one another, and respect one another, like what they said, you can respect without love but you can’t have love without respect.”

“Now this is a self-help book, though, Jason, but I mean, you talked the couples have been married for over 40 years. Now not all of them are entirely happy marriages though, what was the reason they stuck together?”

“It’s so important for us to hear that, because my parents never argue, and it was a really big wakening that these couples went through struggles, and now they are 40 years plus down the road, and they are like holding hands and looking at each other as they are new loves. To realize that, it’s still happening for them, to get through the times is so important for us.”

“And it is interesting because you two found out that you say in the book that every couple in the marriage time lined, actually had a major problem that they had to deal with in their relationship. Right, miller, how did they get through those times?”

“We went to an exclusive interview where they said, you know, their secrets getting through those times are three things, as respect or commitment, commitment and commitment. And that’s you got how. We interviewed a couple, Russle and Betty, in () where they start to stretch their life with absolutely nothing, and being around a candle light table, dreaming about building their life together, and they ended up growing a family and building life, and then hurricane Katrina came through and took it away. And we interviewed them in their devastated home and they celebrated their 50th anniversary in a small little hotel room across a candle light room, remembering that… ”

“Most important thing is that they have each other still.”

“Absolutely. It’s not about how much you have, it is about how much you love.”

“And lubby, it sounds to you the two self-claimed bachelor actually found some great advice in establishing some strong relationships.”

“Absolutely, why we reinvent the real locked tools the couples know how to do it. And that’s what the study show, that couple to stay together in a happy way, have good feelings about one another. They focus on what is right in the relationship, it is a commitment, it is wanting to stay married, it is turning toward each other and liking one another. And you are right, you can not have love without respect.”

“From liking yourself to knowing yourself and knowing the relationship.”

“You have to know who you are when you get married. It is a combination to use you head and your heart; you have to be moving in the right direction and like who you are with. It is a teammate till the end of the day.”

“And I can say that we are the perfect dealers to hear this message. I mean really relationships dots all the humility about this.”

“And you still haven’t found long lasting love…”

“I am so pour to figure out why their lasting relationships is important. When we say the couples who just cherishng each other for all those years, we get the why.”

“You get the why.”

“And also that’s help, right? We know that it is possible.”

“Exactly, exactly.”

“Well, we could continue this, but you get read more in the book. It is called Project Ever Lasting. Jason Miller, Mike box, Lubby. Thanks to all of you.”

respect and commitment

谢谢楼主，顶一个

谢了，顶一个！！！！

真是有的谢谢......

今天才听到，respect，commitment，and of course,love

谢谢了。。。

Everything is a combination to use your head and your heart.

感谢LZ~~~~~~

Wife==find  a  person  who loves me  more than  I love  her;;;;;;;
Girlfriend===find  a  person  I      love    her more  than  she  loves    me..........

where  is  my  wife?????????????